Building audio database

70GB is a lot of music so it is going to take some time to build the database for that. As a work around you should be able to use the file view. From the file view you should see the folder structure you have on the iXpand and browse your music via the folder structure like you would see it in windows explorer. 

You could also try using a adapter that splits the lightning port into two ports like the one linked below.

http://appleinsider.com/articles/16/09/08/belkin-announces-simultaneous-lightning-headphone-and-charging-adapter-for-iphone-7